A Foster Child’s Painful Visit with his Mother

The Child’s Family Visit through the Therapist’s Eyes

His eyes widened with welcome, and a quick smile flashed across his face when he saw me pull in. From that moment, Jason was a 55-pound human-guided missile speeding out the door when I came to transport him and his sister for their weekly family visit.  

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Today he is dressed in a royal blue, short, sleeveless shirt rimmed with white. His shiny new soccer shoes and short white socks are in sharp contrast to his small, skinny, naturally honey-brown arms and legs which have been tanned an even darker color by the sun. His straight jet-black hair falls in a circular pattern around his face. He has a child’s small mouth and nose set in a fragile face. It is his enormous, soft, brown eyes fringed with long, black, velvety lashes that tell his story. His eyes are the mirror of the words his lips will not speak.

Jason is silent on the short drive to the office until he suddenly blurts out that he has lost a tooth as he proudly displays its previous location. I respond with excitement and ask if the tooth fairy paid him a visit. He is silent. When we reach the office, he is the first child out of the car, into the agency, and up the stairs to the therapeutic playroom where his mother is waiting.

He comes to a standstill in the doorway of the room. His eyes reach across the sea of two brothers and two sisters to connect with his mother. Helplessly, they look at each other, and with their eyes, express the pain they feel in separation, without words or touch. After a moment, Jason tenderly greets each of his brothers and sisters with a kiss and a hug. He receives no display of affection in return. There is no expression in his eyes or on his face when he has finished.

Jason doesn’t play with any of the toys but spends the precious minutes of his visit as a helper and a nurturer. He begins by straightening the toy closet. Standing on tiptoe, he arranges the toys, games, and puzzles. When he is finished, he sits with his hands folded and his little legs dangling over the sofa, watching his brothers and sisters play. When the visit is over, he helps them pick up the toys. Jason is a little old man in a little boy’s body at the tender age of 7.

Jason is the first child to hug and kiss his mother goodbye. His arms tighten around her neck as he buries his face in her shoulder. He lingers in this position until his siblings push him out of the way demanding their hug.

Jason steps back fighting off his tears. In the end he succumbs to his feelings. He turns his head to the side to hide the tears as he wipes them from his eyes with the back of his hand. Jason is the only child who cries when the visit is over.

Jason is quiet in the car on the way back to the foster home. He sits with head bowed so I cannot see the tears flowing. When we arrive at the foster home, he is the first child out of the car. He gives me a brief glance as he looks back on his way to the door. His eyes flicker for a moment with pain.

The Family Visit through the Child’s Eyes   

I saw my mom and brothers and sisters today. When Vicki came in her little red car, I called to my sister, “Hurry, Christie, time to go see Mom. Race you to the car!”
I beat her to the car by a long shot. Girls are so slow! I jumped in the car. I got the front seat! I buckled my seat belt. I wished Christie would hurry!

During the ride to the visit, I had so many questions I wanted to ask, “Why can’t I live with my mom? Why am I in foster care? What did I do wrong?” I did ask Vicki, but she said she didn’t know. I thought she just wasn’t telling.

I had a lot to tell mom. I couldn’t keep my surprise inside any longer, so I told Vicki. “See what I did! I lost my tooth!” I held my mouth open with my fingers so she could see the big hole where my tooth had been.

She had to look quick cause she was driving. She laughed and her eyes got really big. She asked me if the tooth fairy left me any money. I had never heard of a tooth fairy.

I wondered if mom would be there. She didn’t come last week. Nobody told me why. They said, “Ask mom!” Funny how grownups never give you a straight answer when you ask them questions!

I jumped out of the car when we got to the office. I ran up the steps to the playroom. I ran to the room and stopped really quick in the doorway. Mom was there! She got tears in her eyes when she saw me. I cried too, I was so happy to see her! I wanted her to kiss me and hug me. She couldn’t because she was holding a baby. She said his name was Adam, and he was my new baby brother! Daina, Katie, Jeff, and Christie came charging into the room. The moment was gone. There was no time for me. I was too late.

I love my brothers and sisters. I missed them, so I hugged them to let them know how much I missed them. They didn’t hug back. They didn’t know how because mom didn’t have time to teach them once the babies started coming. She was always too busy or too tired. I had to teach them hugging. I didn’t mind because I liked hugging. It only hurt a minute because they didn’t hug back. I am used to it by now.

I cleaned out the closet this week, like every week, hoping mom would notice me. Vicki noticed me and said something, then mom said something. I felt really special for a minute. The feeling would have lasted longer if mom had said something first.

When I finished, I went to sit by mom. I wanted her to ask me about school. She didn’t because she was too busy playing with Adam. She wasn’t supposed to be playing with Adam all the time. This was MY visit. I was mad and no one noticed but Vicki.

I got down on the floor to play with my brothers and sisters. There wasn’t anything else to do. Just when I started playing, Vicki said it was time to pick up the toys and say goodbye.

I helped put the toys away and turned to my mom. I put my arms around her neck and hugged her as hard as I could. I hoped if I held on long enough, they would let me go with her, or she would say something. Then the little ones pushed me out of the way to get their goodbye hugs and kisses. I gave up! I decided being the oldest meant being last, even if I was only 7!

I fought really hard to keep from crying on the way to the car and back to the foster home. I tried to hide my head when those dumb tears started falling. Vicki saw my tears. She reached over and stroked my head and neck. Her hand felt soft, and I felt better for a little bit. She said it was OK to be hurt and to cry. I wanted to ask if it had to hurt this much, but I didn’t.

When we got to the foster home, I beat Christie out of the car again. It felt good to be first. I’m not first very often. Vicki was watching me when I ran into the house. For a second, I couldn’t keep back my tears. I guess it was OK to let someone know I was a little boy inside, after all.  

Building on Family Strengths to Solve the Puzzle of Child Protection Work

Information is a difference that makes a difference.
                                               — Gregory Bateson

In nature, it is said that whenever there is a poisonous plant, there can be another nearby which contains its antidote. When it comes to helping families, the same is true that for every problem identified, the resources for resolution can be present somewhere in the family’s ecology.]

Unfortunately, especially for underserved families, competition among divergent treatment philosophies, practices, and limited resources create an unintended conspiracy within the mental health and social service delivery systems — perhaps a benevolent one, but one which nonetheless curtails the identification of systemic homeopaths. The unfortunate consequence of this inability to use potential “antitoxins” naturally present within the client’s ecosystem is inefficiency for the service delivery system, stressed-out workers, high turnover, burnout, and a spiral of reduced possibility in which hope’s grasp is tentative at best, and non-existent at worst.

Mental health and social service clinicians working within the childcare system must search for strengths and solutions that are present, though perhaps hidden, in clients’ ecosystems. The approach is based on systems thinking and the idea gleaned from the practice of Structural Family Therapy (SFT) that change in any system, whether it be a family system or a social services agency, is best affected by the lived experience of doing.

Crossword puzzles as a paradigm stresses thinking and doing as an “out of the box” means to a problem-solving end. This practice mines the strength-based belief of creating a “virtuous circle” — one which recognizes clinicians’ and supervisors’ capacities and creativity, like those of the families they serve.

In resource-poor environments, when the goal of training is the enhanced ability to search for strength, this is not simply a training “add-on.” Rather, it is a foundational principle that requires the same persistence and consistency that Minuchin and other family therapists demonstrated was present in the natural environment in which clients and their families are embedded. The naturally occurring strengths in clients’ ecosystems can be uncovered by robust “doing,” which is an optimistic and energetic search for resources and resilience within both the family and the larger ecosystem of change.

Collaborative Case Planning

Like the proverbial butterfly catcher with net in hand, human service organizations have long been involved in a quest to capture the elusive chrysalis of change. What distinguishes efforts at reform and the ability to succeed is an ecological, “whole systems” approach. Children, families, problems, and possibilities are viewed in toto — economics, social, political, educational, gender, vocational, racial, location, class, and psychological elements are all in play. It acknowledges the margins and builds accountability.

The human and fiscal expense of doing otherwise speaks to the futility of programs that do not account for the organic and sometimes chaotic environment that families attempt to survive and thrive in.
As the 19th century Prussian Field Marshal Helmuth Carl Bernard Von Moltke reminded us, “No plan survives contact with the enemy.” In this instance, the enemy of high-quality service delivery is the tendency to replicate the existing system rather than undergo the reformation needed to absorb the family’s own healing powers.

Another systemically inspired practice that infuses underserved families with greater choice, and ultimately health, is collaborative case planning. This time-honored intervention gets all the major players to the table — including the family — and in the process, becomes a kind of exercise in agency topography that borrows from the tradition of Hartman and her colleagues, who pioneered ecomapping of family systems for adoptive placements.

By using the wide-angle lens of mapping families in all their contexts, resources and potential pressure points can emerge for their potential effect on the child and family. From the agency perspective, efficiency and collaboration are increased with an ecomap; everyone can see who is doing what and when and how it is being done. As a form of “observational therapy,” an ecomap can have the same heliotropic potential. However, as business has learned, outcomes can be improved, but not always for the reasons one might think.

Unfortunately, the promise of systemic work and its healing potential as envisioned by therapists who worked in the family trenches is not always realized in the battles to transform larger systems. For clinicians in the human services, or for those who train them, the pitch of a systemic perspective too often mirrors the president throwing out the first ball of baseball season — well intended, lots of hoopla, but doesn’t reach the plate. Without a clear picture of where they fit in the larger service-delivery system or a sense that they can make a difference, workers can feel overwhelmed, disempowered, and disheartened.

The financial cost to the system in turnover and lost productivity can be measured. The loss of wisdom, the discontinuity of care, and the loss of hope, however, are beyond calculation. In that regard, the experiences of child welfare clinicians mirror the isolation that can permeate the system within which they work and the families that they treat.

It is for this reason that systems of care were re-designed to “wrap” services around families and to minimize the dilution of family processes that occur as a by-product of traditional service delivery. In a sense, “wrapping” can enrich underserved families with a wider net of resources in the way families of higher classes can choose their providers and supports more selectively.

Capitalizing on Strengths

In tracing the strands of effective, systemically inspired service delivery, there is one constant thread: strengths. Thank goodness! But just as it was found that a rising economic tide does not raise all boats, so too can the tidal waters of strength not elevate the all-too-often porous vessels of bureaucracy.

What is amazing is how far a little strength can go, even in conditions that are wanting. There are, after all, some quite beautiful plants that flourish in the shade. Sadly, however, in the wrong bureaucratic hands, even strengths-based practice can invite the agency equivalent of Frankenstein picking flowers with the little girl — it’s a nice idea, but eventually the monster kills it.

How, then, to help clinicians to see that “It’s the difference that makes a difference”? Is there a way to aerate the sometimes root-bound tangle of the childcare bureaucracy so that its ability to heal can be given the room to breathe and prosper? How to give clinicians — especially those just out of school — the understanding and confidence to “trust the process” of searching for strengths, both within disrupted families and the systems designed to serve them? Moreover, are there ways to create a culture of caring and learning transfer so that clinicians see themselves as “action agents” within the larger bureaucratic tangle?

Part of the answer lies in family therapy’s history and co-development with cybernetics — the study of how systems developed the concepts of circularity, non-linearity, recursion, the process of self-correction, and the ways family and organizational systems maintain stability/homeostasis while balancing that with change and transformation. Gregory Bateson and his colleagues at the Mental Research Institute (MRI) in California, along with other early adapters, were the pioneers in this new way of thinking that set the stage for family therapy as we know it today.

Using a notion central to Structural Family Therapy (SFT) about strength and extending it to conceptualizing strength as a verb can be unintentionally overlooked when children and families in dire need get lost within the morass of bureaucracy. The SFT concept of healing is more about thinking of strength as a verb. It’s not so much a matter of finding strengths within the family’s ecosystem as it is strengthening the resources that are hiding in the weeds, so to speak. In that regard, it is more of a leap of faith — that whatever challenges a case presents, health can prevail.

Businesses and non-profits share a challenge: getting their message through environmental “clutter,” or the glut of choices that compete for our attention. How, then, can human service organizations solve the multiple staff training dilemmas they face?

The skills and belief set needed are interwoven and important: ensure the safety of the child and family, reduce decision clutter, increase the active search for strengths, attend to and nurture family connections, expand the problem-solving lens to include extended family, community and idiosyncratic, home-grown resources, and get paperwork in on time. One path on the way toward answering this organizational koan is this: increase experiential capital by linking the worker and their day-to-day decisions with the larger mission of the organization.

Thinking Outside the Therapeutic Box

Bridging the gap between what we know and what we do, however, is no small feat. In Why Didn’t You Say that in the First Place: How to Be Understood at Work, Richard Heyman unravels this knotty problem with a question and a refreshing answer: “Why is it that ‘a picture is worth a thousand words?’ The picture is not talking about something — it is the thing the talk is about.”

From this perspective, to truly “get” the uber-goal of searching for strength and translating that into action, workers must experience the “felt sense” of search and discovery —finding something where apparently nothing exists. This experience is analogous to an “enactment” in SFT, in which the family is guided by the therapist in an interactive experience between members that is designed to offer them new opportunities to use underutilized strengths.

Many consider enactments to be the heart of Structural Family Therapy. The value of enactments is two-fold. First, as a “real-time” assessment tool, and second, for their change-producing potential, both of which scaffold nicely for training in human services.

Enactments between family members during therapy can principally occur in two ways, either spontaneously or through the therapist’s direction, and they are used in two ways, to assess family patterns and to promote change. Spontaneous enactments are readily available ways of interacting that might be thought of as familial “tells” (like the poker player whose nervous smile foretells the bluff), showing habits of relating in which relational organization is embedded. While some might consider these patterns to be so deep as to be unconscious, another way to think of them is as learned ways to relate and survive in the world.

The persistence of patterns can transcend the pull of context. Habituated behaviors tend to reveal themselves in multiple settings— a therapist’s office, a restaurant, school, work, or home. The persistence of these patterns can be linked to the tendency to reduce anxiety through prediction and habit. As the pioneer family therapist, Virginia Satir notably said, “Most people would prefer the misery of certainty over the misery of uncertainty.”

Like an artist who steps back from the picture they are painting, clinicians have the capacity to use themselves differentially, moving in and out of the family system to gain perspective. Minuchin described this as “use of self,” in which the therapist positions themself with the family from “proximate, median or distant” perspectives.

Harry Aponte has written about how therapists can make use of their own personalities, family of origin, and life experiences to guide clients during enactments in the “then and there” of limiting patterns so that they experience themselves and one another with increased possibility and hope.

Like a music student first learning scales as a prelude to improvisation, experiential training can evolve into a more responsive, “whole systems, both-and” approach in which requirements and innovation can co-occur. For example, when supervisors at one county office of a state child welfare agency were asked about their staff’s training needs, their response was, “To be able to think on their own/to think outside of the box.”

Their request comes from the experience of guiding their workers through the complicated bureaucratic and interpersonal seas of child protection. As Mumma wrote in his insightful piece about his agency training in systems work, “Taking these concepts (ways of thinking) and making them work in a particular agency setting is the real work of training.” The analogy of crossword puzzles can make that work a bit easier.

Finding Best Clinical Practices

Just thinking about all the aspects of a case — its who’s, what’s, and how’s — can be a bit overwhelming. Cases in the investigative and early treatment stages, particularly for newer clinicians and social workers, may seem all forest and trees, abounding with unanswered questions.
Over the years, agencies have found genograms, ecomaps, and structural maps to create a set of “blueprints” that graphically represent families and agencies in a way that quickly sorts out relationships and priorities. These tools have been essential in widening the practice/thinking lens to include others who may have clues to potential resources.

The rise in “manualized” treatment and the emphasis on evidence-based treatments has helped to sort through these difficult choices and prescribe “best practices.” While this is a necessary step in the right direction — much like learning scales is in music — it can be insufficient to encompass the unpredictable nature of cases. There needs to be a “both-and” approach that brackets safety, consistency, and growth with improvisation. Thinking in terms of crosswords can do just that.

In its own way, a blank crossword puzzle graphically resembles a complex clinical and, in this case, social services-related case — lots of questions, some inter-related, some not, and just to make it interesting, a few black boxes. As President Clinton said in the crosswords-based movie, Wordplay:

Sometimes you have to go at a problem the way I go at a complicated crossword puzzle. You start where you know the answer and you build on it and eventually you unravel the whole puzzle. And so, I rarely work a puzzle with any difficulty, one across and one down all the way to the end in a totally logical fashion. A lot of difficult, complex problems are like that. You must find some aspect of it you understand and build on it until you can unravel the mystery you are trying to understand and then you build on it and eventually you unravel the whole puzzle.

When one acts as if the answers are there, though perhaps hidden, the puzzle’s resolution moves from the shakier, contingent ground of “if” it will be resolved, to the more possibilistic ground of “how.”

Crossword Puzzles as Metaphor in Child Protection Work

Do you think I know what I am doing?

That for one breath or half-breath I belong to myself?

As much as a pen knows what it is writing,

Or the ball can guess where it’s going next.

Rumi

When a case opens in child protection, the most compelling, sometimes unanswerable question is “Who will keep this child safe?”
If an injury has occurred in the home, the prima facie answer may seem obvious: “no one.” In this instance, unless resources are surfaced, the child will need to be placed outside of the home, “in the system.”

Starting the exploration of strengths from a crossword paradigm assumes that like the printed puzzle, all the answers may not be initially apparent, but once safety is established, one can begin to answer the eternal risk-safety dilemma: Can the person(s) who caused or permitted harm now be responsible for safety? If one only looks at the alleged abuser, then the likelihood is that the answer to the question will be “no.” If more contextual factors are also considered, so, too, are possibilities.

The work becomes both retrospective and prospective, invoking Einstein’s dictum, “You can never solve a problem on the level at which it was created.” The “who” and “when” questions are now also answered by “how.”

The “how” to find and fill those potential strength-based empty boxes begins with questions like “Who else watches the kids when you go out?” or, “When you are having a rough day, who do you talk to?” or, “Who are some of the people you count on?” These ground-level questions are more than a set of techniques, they are the personal implementation of a larger policy that has the capacity to both be safe and value the child’s primary connection.

Enacting Possibility to Help Families in Crisis

Like the Zoysia grass, the grass/weed whose initial plugs merge over time into a uniform carpet, training from a Crosswords perspective can grow the seeds of organizational interpersonal attachment. One way to underscore the marriage of mission and method is to give training participants a felt sense of difference.

The enactment of possibility begins when participants fill out a blank crossword on their own. After five minutes of working alone in silence, the trainer helps the participants process their “silent” experience at multiple levels: What did you notice? Did you fill in the boxes you knew first, or did you have a system? What did it feel like? Did any of you get stuck? How did you get out of that — what did you do? Typically, people report a range of answering strategies — some very methodical, “I do every ‘across' first, then I start with the ‘downs,’” others more radiant, “I just see which ones I know and then go from there.”

Next, the trainer asks the participants what it felt like to do the puzzle. What did they notice about their mental/emotional and physical states? “It was quiet.” “I kind of got into it.” “It was frustrating.” “I felt tense.” “I was worried other people would see how much I didn’t know.” “I kind of enjoyed it.” “It’s like Solitaire or Wordle, I just got lost in it.” All their answers provide abundant raw material to talk about their work, their stresses, successes, and the strategies they use to problem solve. And it sets the stage for helping them think “out of the box” by using the other boxes.

To widen the lens, the trainer may provide another enactment. This time, they can ask participants to form small groups of six or fewer, telling them that they have another five minutes to work on their puzzles, but this time, together. People begin to talk, share their answers, laugh, and fill in the blanks as they see how quickly they can solve the new crossword together as a team.

When the time is up, the group is asked to process their experience and compare it with doing the puzzle alone. Inevitably, they notice the energy level, productivity, speed of producing answers, and their own internal experience of connecting while connecting the dots. In future puzzling cases, this brainstorming model can supply added, shared resource clues to support and, most importantly, help the clinician in their search for resources within the family and larger system.

Materials Needed: Copies of a Crossword Puzzle

Total Amount of time: 10–20 minutes

Lessons Learned: Start with strengths within and around the family, fill in the answers you know to discover the answers you don’t.

One does not need to know all the answers to get all the answers.

A “wrong” answer is eventually corrected by the context of right answers.

Just like a case, one does not know all the answers when starting — answers emerge over time often from unexpected sources.

Persistence pays off — but so does taking a break and getting help.

A Family Crossword Comes Together

The first time I (LPM) met Kyla and her mother, Teresa, was across a cold table in an institutional room. Kyla had been in the residential treatment facility for almost ten months following a series of escalating behavioral incidents in her previous foster home. I thought back to my meeting with the family’s caseworker, who told me that Teresa and her partner Linda’s relationship was volatile and created an unsafe environment in the home. Kyla’s father, according to the caseworker, was out of the picture.

During my first several months working with the family, I felt as if very little progress had been made. Each week, I’d pick Teresa up and drive her to the residential facility for family sessions. Dutifully, I went to family court, holding space for an equally enraged and devastated Teresa on the way home each time reunification was pushed back. I consistently showed up for the family, and despite good rapport with both mother and daughter, Kyla’s behavior remained a challenge and our family sessions felt focused on the crisis of the week, as opposed to addressing underlying family dynamics and struggles.

One day, Teresa unannouncedly brought her partner Linda to session. From that point, treatment changed almost immediately, as both Kyla and Teresa seemed more engaged and open during family therapy, and we began to focus less on minor incidents and more on boundaries and communication within the family system.

Still, somehow, it felt like a piece of the family puzzle was missing. I could sense that Teresa and Linda were holding something back, particularly when we discussed their co-parenting practices. This final piece fell into place one day when I went to pick up Teresa and Linda and Robert, Kyla’s father, eagerly and unexpectedly hopped into the van. It quickly became clear that Robert had been actively involved with the family all along.

I finally could see the full picture of the family structure and their dynamic. Teresa, Linda, and Robert were in a polyamorous relationship. Robert had been understandably hesitant to engage with the child welfare system out of concern that the polyamorous relationship would be condemned, and reunification denied.

The case that had “simply” been presented to me as an unreliable mother with a violent partner unable to meet the emotional needs of her unstable daughter was actually one where a child had three caring adults who wanted to support her. With all the pieces in place and the entire family finally engaged in treatment, meaningful therapeutic work ensued, Kyla’s behavior improved, and she came home.

Conclusion

“The solution to pollution is dilution.”

Using crossword puzzles as a conceptual framework and training method opens workers and the organization to both the learned and the lived experience of complexity, strength, possibility, and the importance of connective relationships when working in child protection. We know that systems can mirror the systems that they treat. For instance, In Child Welfare, the insidious nature of poverty is such that it can quietly, but inexorably, leach into the soil of good intentions in such a way that the attachments between worker and family, workers and other agencies, worker and supervisor, and workers themselves, can suffer the pollution of despair.

This is not to say that using crossword puzzles will wall off the effects of these potential systemic toxins. It is to say, however, that healthy, connected relationships can be grown and nurtured and, over time, create “the difference that makes a difference.”

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The author would like to thank my friends and colleagues who helped me fill in the blanks, both across as well as up and down. A special thanks go to Lauren McCarthy (LM) for providing the case of Kyla.

Brooke Sheehan on Psychotherapy Behind Bars

On the Inside

Lawrence Rubin: Brooke, you are the director of the intensive mental health unit in a correctional facility in the Northeast with acute, subacute, and chronic clients. What are some of the greater challenges that you’ve experienced working therapeutically in this facility?
Brooke Sheehand: I think, for social workers or any clinical staff that decides to get into correctional work, grit, toughness, and the ability to roll with quick-moving and unpredictable changes are important. I’ll give you an example. You might have a schedule of clinical and therapeutic activities like individual and/or group therapy, when all of a sudden, there might be an ICS (Incident Command System) alert, which calls for an immediate response to some type of problematic event.

to get into correctional work, grit, toughness, and the ability to roll with quick-moving and unpredictable changes are important

A resident on the correctional side of the facility, what outsiders typically refer to as a prisoner, could be having chest pains, which obviously calls for immediate attention, or a piece of equipment goes missing, and you have to do a search for that equipment. These kinds of things, not to mention conflicts between residents, derail what you might have otherwise planned therapeutically for the day. I’m pretty lucky because I work on the mental health unit, as opposed to the correctional side of the facility, where the primary focus is on mental health events, and where we generally get to keep going. This shared focus really helps to maintain the stability of the therapeutic community, or milieu.

Another challenge is working with the residents on my unit for whom simply being locked in causes its own stress because they lack control over their immediate environment, their only world, at least for the present.

LR: I used to work in a forensic unit of a state psychiatric hospital, which had a very particular feel for me, and it wasn’t pleasant—far from it. What’s the “feel” of a mental health unit within a prison?
BS:

Unlike the correctional side of the facility, the mental health unit feels very familial

Unlike the correctional side of the facility, the mental health unit feels very familial, which is interesting because that’s not a term you’re usually going to hear from residents in a correctional environment. And I think the staff would say the same thing. Despite the wide range of residents from the acute to the chronically mentally ill, we seem able to create a balanced environment. For example, our longer and long-term residents are able and willing to check in with new or acute folks, which allows them to introduce them to the way that we do business on the unit. And oftentimes, that includes letting these new or acute folks know that we don’t get caught up in typical prison politics, like if someone brings you coffee, they’re not looking to have a favor in return. We really stress the importance of residents on the unit doing things for each other because they care about other people. You might not see this nearly as much on the correctional side of the facility.

LR: So the residents live in the mental health unit as opposed to visiting a clinic for an hour or so for individual or group therapy?
BS: Exactly. Folks end up doing treatment at different intervals that work for them and their clinician. We also have activity therapists, and they really help. If the clinician establishes a treatment plan, those activity therapists help with non-clinical activities, like social skills or physical activities that might be outside of the resident’s comfort zones. An example I usually give is that we have beachball bowling, which provides for social connection, teamwork, and goal-directed activity. And in addition, it’s fun for residents.
LR: Is the mental health unit comprised of both male and female residents, as well as mixed pathologies, from acute all the way to chronic?
BS:

most commonly, we see people with psychotic disorders, either acute or related to chronic conditions like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or schizoaffective disorder

Yes. I would also say that most commonly, we see people with psychotic disorders, either acute or related to chronic conditions like schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, or schizoaffective disorder. Those are all really common. And I would say most people who come into the facility are dually diagnosed, which is a very common and more recent trend; as well as both males and females.

LR: So, it’s not a substance abuse unit per se. But you might have people with substance abuse problems mixed in with other folks who do not abuse substances and who may be experiencing depression or bipolar disorder.
BS: Absolutely. We definitely have people who experience major depression, and those who experience anxiety—although I would say that’s a little less. More commonly, we have people who are actively delusional or for other reasons are unable to navigate the regular prison environment.
LR: What are some of the clinical or therapeutic challenges that the residents on your unit experience?
BS: Our unit is really a need-to-know unit, which is so unique in the correctional realm. So, for example, the correctional officers on my unit do have more mental health training, which is a cool difference from other facilities that don’t have a mental health unit. But, like all the staff on the unit, whether they are mental health-trained or not, everyone is involved in all aspects of treatment planning and implementation. You just don’t see that in a lot of other correctional facilities.
LR: So this is a true therapeutic milieu, where everyone is technically a part of the treatment team.
BS: Absolutely. Everyone, from the behavioral health techs to intensive case managers, to the clinicians, to the correctional staff.

A One-Stop Shop

LR: You have a DSW (Doctor of Social Work). What is your primary function?
BS: I do an array of things. In addition to individual and group therapy, I still have my hand in the less exciting parts of day-to-day management in terms of staff supervision and training, as well as helping with intake and discharge planning.
LR: Parenthetically, is this mental health venue common in the prison system in your state or, as far as you know, across the country? Because it sounds rather unique.
BS:

Our unit is also quite unique because oftentimes facilities attempt to expedite stabilization by quickly treating residents from the correctional side with medications

As far as I know, there is not another facility or unit that has something like this. We’ve had different people from different agencies even within our own umbrella trying to develop something similar. It’s really difficult if you don’t have a lot of stakeholders on board. Our unit is also quite unique because oftentimes facilities attempt to expedite stabilization by quickly treating residents from the correctional side with medications, getting them back to some baseline, and quickly sending them back. So their stay can also be very short. Our unit can take a little bit longer. These particular folks actually get a shot at trying to navigate their way out of the criminal justice system.

LR: So, some are referred directly from court into the intensive mental health unit, after which they go back into society? Or do they go back into the general population on the correctional side of the prison? Sorry to use television terms like “gen pop.”
BS: It can vary. I think that’s one of the other interesting aspects of our model, since we have those three levels of care (acute, sub-acute, and chronic) that for all intents and purposes, should not exist together in a single place.
LR: Where do folks go after completing treatment on your unit, if that is the correct term?
BS: To different gen pop settings, which could be a different correctional facility—whether that’s back to the county jail or to another state facility. We also have folks who will go to a state hospital. And then we also have folks who will be released.
LR: These gen pop residents are the ones who are not living in the intensive mental health unit, but rather what you refer to as the correctional side.
BS: I’m also thinking of that criminal justice realm, where they’re perpetually in this cycle which leads them out but inevitably back to prison for reasons that might be more related to mental health issues. We try to get them into outside settings that are really focused on mental health.
LR: Do you have a psychiatrist who works on the unit or just visits the unit and prescribes meds?
BS: We are fortunate enough to have a psychiatrist who is embedded in our team, which is wonderful. And they really are an essential part of the team. Because what is very different, I think, about an intensive mental health unit in a correctional setting, is that if and when the residents are acutely psychotic, they’re going to need a med adjustment, you know, at the drop of a dime. And we’re really able to do that because that prescriber is embedded with us.
LR: A one-stop shop.
BS: Yes. Exactly.

Working Within the System

LR: What are some of the nontherapeutic aspects of your work, when you’re not sitting in a session with a resident, doing traditional therapy?
BS: Entering into the world of the correctional environment as a clinical person can be quite distressing. You see people engaged in a broad array of challenging behaviors, including self-injury or hunger strikes. When people are confined, they can resort to some really desperate measures. And so I think that’s definitely one of the more challenging aspects of the job.
LR: So, there are issues that some of the residents bring with them into the facility, but some psychiatric behavioral issues that evolve as a result of being in the facility. What other kinds of behavioral and emotional problems develop as a result of being in the facility?
BS:

I’ve got a lot of folks I work with who are lifers or simply won’t outlive their sentences

I think one of the biggest components and barriers for these folks is the lack of control over their own life. I mean, I’ve got a lot of folks I work with who are lifers or simply won’t outlive their sentences. When they have people on the outside whom they’re still trying to be connected to, there’s so much that they miss or are not able to participate in, or celebrate, or grieve. This leaves many of these residents feeling absolutely cut off and without meaningful or rewarding outlets.

LR: What are some of the unique therapeutic challenges of working with a so-called “lifer”?
BS: That’s one of those predicaments where you have to be really comfortable being uncomfortable and able to walk together through this barrier of acknowledging that this person is in this very limited environment forever. And oftentimes, I’ve found that by just calling that what it is and not trying to tiptoe around it, you become better able to provide the necessary supportive interventions. These particular residents really just want to talk about that and acknowledge that this is a different walk and a different journey for them than for someone who might be getting out in nine months.
LR: How has your training in social work, as opposed to that of a clinical psychology background, prepared you to work in this particular environment?
BS: The fundamental difference that I often see is that our training as social workers is really based on a systems orientation as opposed to an individualistic one. I see systemic barriers and challenges more quickly on the unit and am prepared to think and act more quickly to address those.
LR: Can you explain that?
BS: The unique part of this type of job is that I’m working right there in the middle of the intersection, so to speak. We do a lot of work with families, especially in the world of mental health, because many of our residents still typically have connections, both on the inside and outside, and in many cases that includes family members who care. And for these family members, it can really be difficult to navigate the system of care that their loved one is embedded in. That can often leave family members on the outside feeling both hopeless and helpless. And the flip side is that working in the milieu requires constant attention to the politics on the unit, as well as the ebb and flow of policies that flow from the Governor’s office.
LR: In this context of the systemic orientation, what kind of family work are you able to do as a therapist in the facility?
BS:

even before the pandemic, we were able to do a lot of family work through Zoom and Skype

I worked with one of the residents and his mother who was actually able to come into the facility for visits. We were able to do some family work right there, which was pretty unique. And even before the pandemic, we were able to do a lot of family work through Zoom and Skype. And we are also able to provide extra assistance to those families who struggle due to enmeshment, which can be exacerbated by the confinement of one of the family members.

LR: Would you do family work with someone who is a lifer?
BS: Oh, yes. In fact, we do. And that’s been very therapeutic. One of our lifetime residents has family members who live out of state. It’s been a gift to be able to work with the resident and his family on a fluid, continual basis, through which they actually get to mend and work on enhancing their relationship even though they will never live under the same roof or close to one another again.
LR: Can you think of another family with whom you’ve worked that was particularly poignant for you as a clinician?
BS: One that comes to mind is a gentleman who was able to do some inner younger-child work that he really hadn’t been able to do when he was actually young. It was the safety of distance, both from his own childhood and his family members, that allowed him to work through these complex issues. And so, they have, let’s say, like a 30-minute video conference that they’re able to do. Doing it this way gave both sides the time and space between these remote sessions to sort through things.
LR: How did the isolation that COVID forced upon us impact the family work with some of these residents who depended on family members’ coming to the facility?
BS: It absolutely did have an impact. I think you’re right in saying that there are some folks who really are pretty fortunate. In my experience with folks in this system, particularly those with mental health needs, many have burned a lot of bridges, and they don’t have people who come anymore. But for the others, and a couple come to mind, not having those connections has been a challenge. But video conferencing has really lifted people’s spirits and allowed them to stay connected.
LR: In this context of connection, what are some of the benefits that you’ve found by doing group therapy with the residents?
BS: Before we even get in the room for group treatment, they’re all there. Everyone is there, which is so cool. I’ve worked in a lot of places and with other populations, and folks just don’t show up at the same rate for group therapy. They all really push each other to get outside of their comfort zones and be there for the group.
LR: Are your groups process groups, or are they psychoeducational groups, and are they unique to being inside of a prison?
BS: Working with this very interesting and mixed cohort means that we have to get creative a lot. We do a lot of processing, a lot of meeting people where they’re at during the day. And I’m telling you, that’s where the magic is. People really seem to connect with that and feel like they’re able to be heard. We’ll have people who—even if they’re chronic—still struggle with a lot of delusional thoughts. It’s amazing to watch group members patiently help these particular folks get back on topic. The group knows how to re-center itself and continue on.
LR: It sounds like an incredibly cohesive group of residents, despite the diversity of their psychiatric needs. Have you found any particular method or theory of therapy more useful with these incarcerated residents?
BS:

staff are always available and willing to respond to the residents’ needs, and quite honestly, the residents are very protective of the staff

When it comes to the work in this type of environment, I’ve never felt more successful or seen therapists be more successful then when they’re able to forge a relationship. And that takes that kind of grit that I was talking about earlier, because people can be afraid, coming into an environment like this. I have done a lot of work in homes and have even delivered meds to people, so I’ve seen the importance of connection. In here, staff are always available and willing to respond to the residents’ needs, and quite honestly, the residents are very protective of the staff.

LR: So, we’re not talking about CBT being preferred over DBT or being more appropriate than ACT—we’re talking about core relationship-building skills that you might find in client-centered therapy?
BS: Absolutely. But I do want to mention that we use all those other modalities as well. Because each has something to contribute, depending of course on where people are. But definitely, the relational aspect goes far and beyond.

Gendered Issues

LR: You’ve written a few blogs for us on some of the challenges of working with women around pregnancy, parenting, and even your own pregnancy while working here.
BS: Many of the women in here are on a new journey of their own. It has really tugged at my heart working with the women, because there were so many folks who are in the throes of losing their children or have lost children. And I have had both of my pregnancies while working here. I worked with a pregnant resident who understood that she was going to have to give up her child, which was very hard to witness. But being able to navigate those waters in a truthful way, particularly as I happened to be pregnant at the same time, I was grateful to be able to help her get to a place where she was like, “Looking at you is so difficult for me.” A lot of growth and healing came from that relationship.Being with the men can result in a range of unexpected and awkward questions. That has to do with the elephant in the room of human sexuality, which can also be very uncomfortable. I’ve gotten some really bizarre questions.

LR: Oh, that you got pregnant as a result of sexual activity and they’re not allowed to have sexual activity! I get it now. Does sexuality—sexual behavior, sexual behavior problems—come to the fore in your clinical work?
BS:

a lot of the men I work with have had really either horrific or very challenging relationships with women

I think that is a huge component in this type of work, especially from the vantage point of being someone who identifies as female and working with folks who identify predominantly as male, and who are constantly trying to figure out their own equilibrium. Oftentimes, a lot of the men I work with have had really either horrific or very challenging relationships with women. Or didn’t get any education around human sexuality. So they’re trying to guess how to piece this all together. Most younger males have gotten a lot of their sexual and even relational references and experiences through pornography. So that’s their lens, and they don’t have the context for how to have healthy interactions with women.

LR: Can we circle back to some of the issues that pregnant inmates experience?
BS: Postpartum depression and anxiety are huge. The depression piece, I think, is so important. I think, oftentimes once you have a child, the mom kind of gets left behind. And you can see that, too, in an environment like this where people are kind of like, “Okay. You’re separated. Now, let’s just move on.” But there’s so much there happening, you know, hormonally and mentally, that requires a lot of attention. Because, if you don’t, someone could end up suicidal.
LR: What about those residents who have lost access to their children, who lose their parental rights after they give birth, or who have—as a result of their criminal or mental health histories—lost connection to their own children? What are some of the challenges in working with them?
BS: This is one of the points I’m always eager to talk about. One thing that really jumps out is that most women who are incarcerated are here because of substances or some type of interpersonal relationship. It takes about 15 months from arrest to sentencing, which is the amount of time that it takes to be away from a child before an agency like a Department of Human Services would take away or petition to take away a child. So the system kind of sets these women up for failure and undermines their ability to build a relationship with their child.
LR: And the children lose precious and necessary early attachment to their mother.
BS: And so many of these folks are impoverished, which means that the bail system makes it that much harder for these women to reconnect with their children during that very sensitive bonding/attachment period.
LR: It sounds like there’s an inevitable cycle of attachment disruption, depression, alienation from the children, and attachment disturbance.
BS: BS: Absolutely.

Developmental Impairment

LR: You mentioned in one of your blogs that you work with incarcerated residents who are on the autism spectrum or have intellectual disabilities. What are some of the challenges that you face in working with these residents?
BS:

A correctional system is just not built for folks on the autism spectrum or with intellectual disabilities

A correctional system is just not built for folks on the autism spectrum or with intellectual disabilities, despite the fact that we’re seeing more people with these types of disabilities entering the system. I think this environment is really confusing for folks with such an obtuse vulnerability, because it’s really easy for other folks to take advantage of them by using them for their own gain. There’s a lot of data to support the idea that folks with these types of disabilities do better in smaller, contained units. And it can be really dangerous, because they are more easily victimized physically and emotionally, which contributes to their already fragile coping skills.

LR: I would think, then, that for these folks you would have to focus on life skills, survival skills?
BS: Absolutely.
LR: Why do you think that the residents on the autism spectrum or those with intellectual disabilities end up in prison as opposed to residential treatment centers on the outside? Have they committed crimes? It seems so complex.
BS: My experience has been that we have these gaps in our community services network, not only in my state but across the country. What I’ve seen happen is that someone with these particular difficulties who lives in a residential setting typically acts up in response to a stressor that is beyond their ability to cope with. They end up in emergency rooms or in police custody. And then, very quickly, charges are filed against them. And once they’re in the system, it’s really challenging to get them to where they need to be. Another thing we’re seeing is related to their difficulty navigating the sexual realm, where they may end up committing a sexual offense, albeit unknowingly.
LR: They don’t really understand what they’ve done. Are they amenable to corrective therapeutic work in your facility?
BS: You really have to find ways to teach the concrete skills—it’s almost like going back to middle school for them—and really helping them get that formative education on just, first, how to have a social relationship. And then bridging that with behaviors that are socially appropriate and what behaviors they need to have hard boundaries around.

Preparing for Re-Entry

LR: How do you prepare soon-to-be-released residents, and what are some of their psychological needs that need to be addressed in therapy before they go?
BS:

We definitely do a lot of normalizing around this huge gap that exists between the world inside and the world outside

We definitely do a lot of normalizing around this huge gap that exists between the world inside and the world outside. One of the things that I think has been most pronounced is technological advances. Sure, we use tablets in here, as I mentioned before, but there’s still a huge plethora of technological skills that they just don’t have, like chip cards, which seem so second-nature to us on the outside. Even cell phones have changed so rapidly and can be so very confusing. So we try to do a lot of practical things in these areas to prepare our residents who will need to catch up to the technology on the outside.

LR: With no experience in this domain, I think of the movie Shawshank Redemption and wonder about the psychological challenges of freedom from incarceration.
BS:

getting them ready to reconnect on the outside, we kind of try to wrap them back together and cinch them up

Absolutely. I think one of the biggest ones—and you kind of hit on it in your remark—is the anxiety that is inevitable upon their release and the temptation to push everyone away as they try to wrap their head around this very big transition. We really try to work with them to stay aligned with the values that make them individuals and some of the important insights and messages they got while they were inside. Many of these folks are kind and loving people who enjoy humor and relationships. So in getting them ready to reconnect on the outside, we kind of try to wrap them back together and cinch them up and allow them that space to move through this big impending change.

I think COVID has added a whole other layer to this, especially for those residents who will need to quickly connect with resources for substance abuse support on the outside, many of which are virtual. And these folks have been so accustomed to face-to-face groups on the inside. They desperately need continuity in their sense of community.

LR: What suggestions would you offer to fellow clinicians on the outside who might be working with these released residents?
BS: I love that question. I think one of the biggest things clinicians on the outside can do is to look at their own intrinsic biases about this population of clients. While a lot of momentum has been generated towards working with people who are incarcerated, I worry that many struggle with the idea that these folks are bad seeds. A lot of people, in their lifetime, have driven drunk or violated some rule. But there’s a fine line that is easy to overlook, especially in the United States where we incarcerate more people than anywhere else. Many of us are connected to someone in our family or close circle of friends who has crossed the line, so we really need to look at that and try to wrap our arms around these people.
LR: Have you come across any misconceptions or particular biases that clinicians on the outside have when they see the clients that you discharge?
BS: My residents are particularly challenging because they’re coming from an intensive mental health setting. I worry that clinicians assume that they’re automatically going to be violent, that they’re not going to be someone who follows the rules, and that they’re not going to be able to handle the treatment. You know, if you build that bridge, people are going to be able to meet you there. But it takes immense vulnerability to walk out of a correctional facility and try to get back into the world. So, if we could kind of build that bridge together, that would be huge.

Summing Up

LR: Brooke, how has working in a prison impacted you as a person, as a mother?
BS:

I think through this journey I’ve definitely been able to see people as fellow walkers in this life

That is an awesome question. I think through this journey I’ve definitely been able to see people as fellow walkers in this life. We’re all human beings. And I really, truly believe that no one should be judged on their worst day. And I’ve definitely worked with a lot of people who have committed a lot of different crimes and come with a lot of different baggage who will adamantly say that—we are really just fellow human beings. So it’s definitely changed my mindset to viewing the world as this place where we’re all just doing our best.

LR: You will have wonderful insights to offer your own kids when they’re old enough to appreciate them. Last question. What obstacles have you encountered as a woman coming into corrections in a clinical facility with a doctorate?
BS:

The challenge of being a female clinician is that people sometimes think I’m like a hug-a-thug or something like that

I think a correctional environment, just by sheer nature, was not designed to house women. When they first decided that they were going to have prisons in the world, they were really designed around men. So there’s that. Then, you have a hypermasculine environment, which is not a criticism. It’s a paramilitary society—so it’s very based on order. It can be very strict at times. The challenge of being a female clinician is that people sometimes think I’m like a hug-a-thug or something like that, where, oh, gosh, you’re just going to have no regard for the rules, and you’re definitely going to be someone who doesn’t have boundaries because you’re a woman. And that’s really not true. I think having a doctorate has also been a very interesting experience. Because I will be with a male colleague who also has this doctorate, and they will call him “Doctor” and me by my first name.

LR: Sounds like you’ve had your challenges, Brooke. But you’ve also found your stride.

Burning Out After Jumping In: Reflections From the F

Some days, I question why I became a social worker. Other days, I wonder why I chose to work at an inpatient psychiatric facility for the past two years of my life. Coincidentally, these last two years were my first years in the field post graduate school. The reason I find myself working at an inpatient facility is a much less dynamic mystery—I was hired straight out of grad school by the hospital I did my first-year internship with. I remember it vividly. I was nearing graduation with a mountain of student loan debt, armed with an Ivy League education and ambition to help others. Secretly, I was crippled with anxiety about exiting the comfort that being in school provided. So, like most people, I jumped at the first job I was offered. Mystery solved.

However, wondering why I became a clinician is a recurring thought. Sometimes I find myself pondering the motivation behind my entire career path. On other more hectic days, I gravitate towards the more stress-fueled variety of that question: Why the (expletive) did I choose to dedicate my life to helping others who, more often than not, don’t want my help?! Why am I swimming in debt to provide services to patients who would rather do literally anything than attend my groups?

It occurred to me recently—can this be burnout so early in my chosen career? Is it possible to be burned out after two years of practice? Apparently so. Okay, so, we’ve established that I’m burned out. The question now evolves to—what do I do about it? I engage in self-care daily. I have a beautiful horse that I ride as much as possible; I have a wonderful husband who supports me in every way; I journal; I participate in mindfulness; I play with my dogs, I don’t take work home with me. But, on the worst, most chaotic days—that’s not enough.

If I’ve learned anything from my years on this planet—what’s right for one is not right for others. I don’t presume to have the answers for anyone but myself. Though, I know I’m not the first to wonder if it’s too late for a career change because I just can’t take anymore (just a side note—I’ve investigated essentially every profession that does not deal with other living human beings). So, I’m not sure if this is the “right” approach, but here’s what I’ve determined: burnout is eased by the days that a patient says, “thank you.” Okay, that’s ridiculously simple and people are rolling their eyes thinking, “Yeah, someone says thank you and then all your stress and compassion fatigue just vanishes?” Definitely not.

But, today a patient walked into my office. Uninvited… sure!, but “come on in” I said! He said to me, “When I first got here, you made me nervous because you are a smart woman. But, I have to tell you that I’ve learned so much from your groups. You have a heart of gold and have helped me more than you know.” This person then proceeded to recite ideas that were shared in my groups and was applying them to his particular situation. He illustrated how certain topics helped him in specific ways throughout his admission. I won’t pretend that this interaction erased the layers upon layers of burnout hovering over me like an aggravating, stress filled cloud. But, I can say with confidence that this conversation reminded me why I became a social worker. This five-minute discussion is the answer to the recurring question: why did I enter this field?

Burnout remains a mystery to me. I know I haven’t introduced an unfamiliar idea into the narrative around this subject. Though, if you’re anything like me, and you feel like you’re doing as much self-care as one human can possibly do yet continue to feel dread as you pull into the parking lot at work—then gratitude is the sprinkle of motivation essential to putting the car in park and carrying on with the day. And maybe it is just enough to keep me moving forward into this new and strangely rewarding career.