By now Sandra and Carl have become much more comfortable acknowledging their attachment needs, but the powerful emotions driving their cycle still elude them. Jorgensen continues to probe with evocative questions, which guide the couple to explore intensely vulnerable feelings of longing, fear, and rejection. Sandra and Carl’s willingness to cover such painful territory is fortified by the visible warmth that has blossomed between them over the preceding weeks.
As the therapy progresses into the eighth and ninth sessions, Sandra’s deep attachment fear becomes more obvious. She struggles to feel Carl’s love for her, even as he explains, “I don’t want to be the next person in your life who lets you down.” These sessions exemplify the evolution into Stage 2 EFT, as Jorgensen works to soften Sandra’s pursuit and pull Carl out of his withdrawn position. When Carl tells her how difficult it is to say that he needs her love, Sandra finally lets her guard down and exclaims, “I feel like I’m rolling through the flowers with you!”
Jorgensen has helped the couple lay the groundwork for a new relationship, but the couple still has a lot of work ahead of them. As wanderlust calls them to pull up stakes and voyage on to greener pastures, the focus of their last session turns to how they can continue their work going forward. And while the therapy may not have reached an ideal stage for the couple, it has provided them with a new perspective, instilled them with hope, and set them on a trajectory toward a deeper connection with each other.
This video is part of the three video series, Emotionally Focused Therapy: A Complete Treatment. Other self-study videos in this series include:
- EFT Part 1 (Sessions 1 – 3)
- EFT Part 2 (Sessions 4 – 6)
- EFT Part 3 (Sessions 7 – 10)
