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EFT Stage 1: Reaching De-escalation

by Rebecca Jorgensen
How do you help couples get beyond blame to get them to a place of safe emotional engagement? In this second volume of our 4-video series with EFT expert Rebecca Jorgensen, learn the steps and interventions of Stage 1 leading towards complete de-escalation.

Part of the 4-video series: Emotionally Focused Therapy Step by Step

EFT Stage 1: Reaching De-escalation
One of the many challenges that therapists face is finding a way to stop the cycles of negativity and conflict that bring couples into their office. Without a clear roadmap, therapists often feel helpless in getting their couples to stop the accusations and begin to listen to each other. EFT provides a framework for therapists to do just that: help couples understand how and why they elicit disconnection, distance, and despair. Even though EFT is solidly grounded in attachment theory, its power lies in the specificity of the steps, stages, and techniques.

In this volume you will learn in detail the four steps of EFT Stage 1 that lead to de-escalation.

Using numerous vignettes from 6 actual courses of couples therapy, Jorgensen guides the viewers through the core concepts and interventions of Stage 1
• Identifying the negative cycle
• Accessing primary emotions
• Recognizing the markers of de-escalation
• Leading the couple to an experiential understanding of the impact they have on each other.

By the end of this volume, you will know how to guide your clients to take control of their negative cycle, giving them more hope and courage to go forward. This will open up the door to Stage 2, where restructuring of the partners’ interactions can occur. 

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Couples therapy is one of the most challenging approaches in our field—yet most therapists spend years winging it before feeling secure in the work. Clinicians new to it often learn trial by fire, which can lead to ineffective and very frustrating outcomes for all involved. Even more seasoned therapists avail themselves of training to manage this difficult population. In the interests of helping both new and seasoned therapists navigate these rough waters, we’re thrilled to present this brand-new, original series on Emotionally Focused Therapy with expert trainer Rebecca Jorgensen. Here, you’ll find a reassuring framework for transforming relationships using the evidence-based method’s proven techniques.

Volume 2 offers an in-depth look at the key clinical tasks of Stage 1 of the method. Jorgensen (as interviewed by Victor Yalom) begins with an overview of this stage’s goals and four steps. You’ll learn how to view couples’ needs and interactions through an attachment lens, how to help each partner access and understand their emotional motivations, and how to help them reframe and recalibrate their communications. Successfully done, these tasks set the stage for the method’s subsequent phases.

Jorgensen and her team of colleagues then demonstrate a series of actual EFT sessions with six couples, illustrating the tasks of Stage 1 step by step. Between creating and maintaining the therapeutic alliance, accessing and reformulating emotions, and restructuring interactions, the video offers the structure and definition you need to feel supported in your couples work.

If you’re in search of comprehensive EFT resources, your library won’t be complete without this 4-video series. Check it out today.

By watching this video, you will:
• Understand the objectives and four steps of EFT’s Stage 1.
• Learn core EFT interventions for identifying a couple’s negative cycle and accessing primary emotions.
• Discover ways to reframe couples’ experiences in order to improve their communication.
Length of video: 2:29:15
Number of Discs: 1
English subtitles available on: Stream, DVD
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Group ISBN-10 #: 1-60124-525-4
Group ISBN-13 #: 978-1-60124-525-0
Rebecca JorgensenRebecca Jorgensen, PhD is Founder and Director of the Attachment Advancement Institute and Co-Director of The Training and Research Institute for Emotionally Focused Therapy. She is an Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Supervisor and Trainer. Her focus is on promoting effective attachment for healthy relationships through virtual and in-person educational conferences and workshops as well as training and providing consultation on effective treatment of relational distress. She has developed several streaming conferences and seminars and has hosted and/or co-presented with attachment theorists and researchers such as Sue Johnson, Phil Shaver and Jim Coan. She continues to work to develop effective methods and platforms to transfer science-based treatments to clinicians and those who will utilize prevention services.

As a recognized expert on couple therapy couples and therapists travel to work with Dr. Jorgensen at Couple Workshops, Intensive Couples Therapy, Professional Trainings and Consultation. Her online educational programs and consultation groups are popular all around the globe. This “therapists’ therapist” is known for her presence, clarity and empathy. Dr. Jorgensen lives in Mexico where she maintains a small private practice.
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CE credits: 2
Learning objectives:

  • Understand the objectives and four steps of EFT’s Stage 1.
  • Learn core EFT interventions for identifying a couple’s negative cycle and accessing primary emotions.
  • Discover ways to reframe couples’ experiences in order to improve their communication.