Couples Therapy: An Introduction
by Ellyn Bader & Dan Wile
In this video, two renowned couples and marriage experts, Ellyn Bader and Dan Wile discuss what couples therapy is and what it is not. A valuable resource beginning therapists, and for clients this to help them get their couples therapy off on the right track.
What are the key issues that most couples face when entering couples therapy, and what are the best attitudes for them to adapt to make the most out of the experience? In numerous heartwarming stories, Bader and Wile explain how couples therapy works, and describe the positive changes that can occur, even for couples who appear at first hopelessly deadlocked. They describe the two most common patterns in couples: withdrawal from each other and avoiding dealing with critical issues, or engaging in repeated conflict that leaves each partner hurt and angry. 

Despite the hope couple's therapy offers, many couples (or one partner) are reluctant or afraid to seek professional assistance. Couples Therapy: An Introduction can help ease these fears by laying out a roadmap of what the process entails, and providing some reality-based encouragement on what kinds of changes are possible. This video will be valued by couples of all types, as well as the therapists and counselors who work with them.

What therapists are saying…

"I highly recommend the video Couples Therapy: An Introduction, to any couple considering entering therapy. It will both provide a good basis for the work and will also alleviate common fears experienced by people unfamiliar with the process. This is a great tool for therapists!"

-- Kim Ives Bailey, MFT, Burlingame, CA
"Bader and Wile's optimism about helping couples is heartwarming and inspiring. This video is a wonderful addition to any therapist's library, as well as to any couple wanting to learn more about couples therapy."

-- Keith Armstrong, LCSW, Director of Couples and Family Therapy Department of Veterans Affairs Medical Center, San Francisco
In Depth
This is a great resource to keep in your "lending library"--or to start your lending library if you don't have one.  Then lend it out to couples after their first session to help them better understand how couples therapy works, and what attitudes they can adapt to increase their (and your) chances for success.  It also makes for a nice homework assignment after the first session, and your clients will really appreciate this added touch. Clients often ask what they can do between sessions, and often in the beginning phases, especially for high conflict couples, they really don't have the tools to address the issues on their own between sessions.  But they can at least sit down, and watch this video together without escalating into an argument, so it's a nice task to give them to do, and it's also just the right length of time.

Length of video: 00:43:00

English subtitles available

Individual ISBN-10 #: 1-60124-001-5

Individual ISBN-13 #: 978-1-60124-001-9

Group ISBN-10 #: 1-60124-002-3

Group ISBN-13 #: 978-1-60124-002-6

For more than 20 years, Ellyn Bader has helped couples transform their relationships. She is widely recognized as an expert in couples therapy training. Ellyn and her husband, Dr. Peter Pearson, are creators of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and directors of The Couples Institute in Menlo Park, California.

Ellyn and Peter are the authors of In Quest of the Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy. Written in 1988, this book is still used in graduate schools and training programs across the country, and is in its 15th printing. The California Association of Marital & Family Therapists awarded the book the Clark Vincent Award for its outstanding contribution to the field of marital therapy. Their latest book, Tell Me No Lies, presents a fascinating account of the lies partners tell each other and ultimately, how to face the truth and build a loving marriage.

After years of training couples therapists at workshops and conferences around the world, Ellyn has recently created innovative, practical training programs for therapists using conference calls and the internet. For more information on Ellyn's training, please visit

Dan Wile, PhD is the developer of Collaborative Couples Therapy, and the author of Couples Therapy: a Nontraditional Approach, After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship, and After the Fight: Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relationship, as well as over 20 articles and chapters. John Gottman, the preeminent researcher on couples therapy has described Dr. Wile as "a genius and the greatest living couples therapist." His website is

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