By Dan Wile, PhD
on 6/23/11 - 9:06 AM
The defining task in a Collaborative Couple Therapy session is to create an intimate conversation out of whatever is happening—frequently a fight. Sometimes that means helping the partner who has just been accused deal with the accusation. Sometimes, and this is my focus in this write-up, that means reshaping the accusing partner’s angry statement. I speak as if I were that partner, translating his/her blaming statement into a confiding one, in a method similar to doubling in psychodrama. I show...
By Dan Wile, PhD
on 1/16/11 - 7:43 PM
<strong>1. Never go to bed angry</strong>.<br />
Stay up all night yelling and screaming. After the way your partner behaved, he doesn’t deserve to sleep.<br />
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<strong>2. Don’t jump in to help when your partner is telling a joke</strong><br />
--unless, of course, you can tell it much better.<br />
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<strong>3. When fighting, take a time out</strong>.<br />
That will give you a chance to come up with more devastating putdowns.<br />
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<strong>4. Don’t interrupt your partner.</strong><br />
You need to have all the facts in order to show her how totally wrong she is.
